Asking Expatriates for a Date
I think it takes a lot of nerves for a guy to ask a girl out, especially if the girl is someone that he really likes. I suppose the fear of rejection is always there and it is a risk that not all men want to take. After all, who likes to be rejected, right?
There is this friend that we have who is still single. He rarely goes out on dates but it is not because he isn’t interested. He is just a little shy and he doesn’t feel comfortable approaching women and asking them out on dates. The most he will do is to give women he meets through work his phone number.
The problem is most women wouldn’t call a man unless they are really interested. But how many relationships start off with that kind of love at first sight stuff. Most develop over a few dates as each check out the other and evaluate how compatible they might be. So, in most cases, it is still the man who still needs to call the woman and invite her out.
I tend to think that in this day and age, a straightforward approach just works best. People are less inclined to play games these days. If you drop hints to test the waters rather than ask a woman outright for a night out, she probably wouldn’t care to spend her time deciphering your motives and wondering what is on your mind. You just can’t expect a woman these days to sit at home and go through your moves and intentions to see if you are indeed asking for a date. If she doesn’t know what you have in mind, there are always friends around her for some company.
Rejection is hard, I know. But times have changed in that a lot of people have become very direct and straightforward. They are frank about their intentions right from the start. I guess the bolder you are now, the higher your chances of landing a date. That’s how life works - if you don’t open your mouth and ask, you won’t get what you want.
I’m not sure you really have a reason not to trust him. Sure, it would be nice if the words he said to you were to you and only you and that you were the only one on the roster but…how realistic is that? He was engaging multiple women at once. We’re you even exclusive at the time he was sending these emails? If you were, then I understand your concern. But if you weren’t, then the only thing he’s guilty of is keeping his options open. Don’t we all do that from time to time?
You can’t set someone up and then be surprised when they lie. Depending on the question, what did you think he would say? Did you think he would break down and tell you that he was hedging his bets all along? Who would admit to that?
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