Did He Just Make a Move, Or Was His Leg Just Tired…Seriously.
Today’s just a quickie (along with a reminder about the FREE BOOK GIVEAWAY contest still going on.) Why a quickie? Well, a reader named Kelly asked…well, she just made me spit Earl Grey tea all over the place with her question. I’ll go ahead and let you read, and then we’ll discuss.
Here it is down and dirty. I like a guy who has been dating someone for a long time. He clearly doesn’t like her and has made known to others that he doesn’t love her.
Ok, I’m sensing that we’re approaching a danger zone here.
Last Saturday he rested his leg gently on mine under a table at a restaurant. So, is he making a move on me or was his leg tired from his golf game? Thanks!
Dear Kelly,
First of all, I’d just like to file a complaint that your situation turned out to be neither down NOR dirty. We all calibrated our receptors for at least one of the two, and now we’re forced to…oh, I can’t stay mad at you, Kelly! This question is too high-larious. Here’s why:
A LEG IS JUST A LEG….NOT
Here’s the thing about guys with physical contact. When it happens…we know it. When we’re making contact with you, we’re aware of it, we know we’re doing it. It’s not always sexual, per se. But it’s never JUST because we were tired from a golf game. (MANSLATOR’S NOTE: Full disclosure: I haven’t played a lot of golf. Or any. But I’ve accidentally been forced to watch some on television, and it just doesn’t look all that exhausting. Not as exhausting as, say, watching it.)
Now, does that mean that he was actively hitting on you? Not necessarily. But it was a bit of a flirt. What that means depends more on the guy than on the leg-resting. Is he a flirtatious guy? Does he like to be the center of female attention? For some guys — even guys with girlfriends — hanging all over other girls is his way of “hiding in plain sight” so he can get away with a little extra physical contact. As in, “Oh, that Jerry, what a hootenanny! He’s ALWAYS grabbing SOMEbody’s ass!” And at that point, if he’s not 14 years old and in drama club (hey, don’t think I don’t remember how THAT went) he’s likely getting sued.
But what about this guy? Was he making a move?
VERDICT: PROBABLY…BUT DON’T GET TOO PSYCHED YET
Yeah, he was probably doing this to gauge your interest level, sure. It sure as hell wasn’t about golf. Just please remember — that gives you ZERO information on whether or not he likes you. At all. All you know is that he’s attracted to you. Totally, totally different thing. A man could get very turned on by resting his leg against any number of ladies. Including, in this case, ladies who are not his girlfriend.
If the question is, “So, does he like you?” the answer is, no one has any way of knowing that yet besides him. He has yet to give any signs either way. If the question is, “Does he like the idea of potentially humping you?” then, yeah, probably.
Good luck, Kelly. Well…I guess. I mean, keep in mind, this is a guy who is willing to do this while he has a girlfriend sitting off somewhere not knowing he’s doing it. Nice fella.
Oh, ladies? Is this a “move” or is golf really that tiring?
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