How To Impress Smart Beautiful Women
Trying to impress smart, intelligent women with smooth lines or fancy cars is the best way to shoot yourself in the foot. Here's what to do instead...
Listen
up.
When
it comes to beautiful, intelligent women – one of the easiest ways to shoot
yourself in the foot is to try to impress her with smooth lines, fancy cars or
other techniques to try to convince her to like you. They’ve seen it all and it
makes you just like all the other guys out there. Plus, more often than not,
trying to impress her can actually cause her to lose interest in
you, give you weird ‘tests’ and otherwise make a good thing go sour faster than
the speed of light.
So what should you do instead?
First of all, we’re assuming that
you want to make dating beautiful women as simple and stress-free as possible.
That’s what this advice is designed to help you do.
Learn to resist the urge to
impress the top-class girls and you will be well on your way to meeting, dating
and relating with extremely high quality women without ever having to convince
them to like you.
A Case Study on Trying to Impress
Smart Beautiful Women
Bill meets a girl. She’s great.
Gorgeous. Incredible job. Smart. Exciting. She’s even funny! And to top it all
off, she seems into him!
‘She’s amazing!’ He thinks.
Just like the last case study,
Bill puts on his best performance. He really wants to impress her. He tells her
all about his great lifestyle and all the cool stuff going for him. He doesn’t
meet many girls like this so he really wants to make her feel a connection. He
even starts making plans with her to go on future dates and telling her how
unique, cool and different she is from all the other girls out there.
He pulls out every trick in the
book to try to convince her that he is the right man for her. This woman is
exactly the reason why he wanted to get better at persuasion and “getting the
girl.”
Success! They go on a couple
dates and he spares no expense. “I better do things right” he thinks. Things
are going smoothly. They seem to have such a great connection after he’s shared
so much of his past with her. He even sends her frequent messages to let her
know about the cool things going on in his life and to let her know that he
likes her for more than just her body.
And then … she’s gone. She stops
returning his phone calls and messages with anything more than “I’m busy.”
Meanwhile, Bill is frantically planning out how he can “get her” to like him
again. But all his pushing and persistence leads to nothing because she is
already gone and he’s left
scratching his head.
scratching his head.
The
next time he goes out to Meet More Women he tries even harder to persuade
girls to like him, under the false assumption that “if it didn’t work with her
then I need to improve my persuasion skills.”
In the end, Bill goes right back into the cycle of persuading every girl he meets to like him.
In the end, Bill goes right back into the cycle of persuading every girl he meets to like him.
Have you ever done this?
Symptom: You
feel disappointed and let-down when girls you really like leave you or stop
returning your phone calls.
Cause: Feeling like you
need to convince and persuade girls if you want them to stay with you for the
long-run.
“Boo Hoo! If only I could have
done a better job making her like me I could have kept her!”
Analysis: The
thing about persuasion is that even if a guy can convince a girl to do
something she didn’t originally want, the minute he stops persuading her, she
leaves.
An interaction that starts with
persuasion can only keep moving forward with persuasion. This puts many guys in
the (usually unnoticed) cycle of trying to persuade and convince her as long as
he wants her in his life or else he risks losing her when he turns off the
persuading tactics.
Persuading a girl to stay with
him is almost impossible for a man to do for an extended period of time. The
constant internal stress of feeling the need to persuade and convince girls to
like him ends up interfering with his overall happiness and ability to meet
really great women. The worst part is, for the really great women like the one
above, persuasion simply doesn’t cut it. She can have any man she wants. Why
would she stay with a guy who has to convince her to stay when she could just
as easily get one she already knows is the kind of man she wants?
The Underlying Problem Behind
Feeling the Need to Impress Smart Beautiful Women (and a Solution!)
Lack of a way to meet women that
can actually lead to a relationship where you are both mutually and extraordinarily
happy rather than one where you are in a constant struggle to persuade her to
stay with you.
What is the solution? Learn to be
the kind of man that great women want to be with so that you don’t have to
worry about how to persuade her to stay with you.
Today’s
post was the a special case studies from the book Meet More Women. I highly recommend reading it if you
want detailed advice on exactly how to remedy this situation. The book has so
much more detail than I can go into on this simple blog post.
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