Want To Get Back Together With Your Ex-Girlfriend?

июля 17, 2020

We’re about to share some advice with you that you might not like. And we’re not going to sit here and tell you what you want to hear and dance around the issues hoping not to hurt your feelings. We’re telling you what you need to hear based on what we know helps our guys live the best lives possible.

Whenever guys come to us and ask, “How do I get back together with my ex?” we usually answer that the best thing you can possibly do is get up, get out and go meet more women. A lot more. Like, seriously a whole lot more (maybe around 30 new women a day… or more.)

Ex-girlfriends are “ex” for a reason. And the bottom-line is, things never end well emotionally or psychologically when the guy tries to go back with the girl. Usually, she won’t take him back (which makes the sting of rejection worse). And if she does take him back then he is just setting himself up for things to come crashing down again (almost always harder).

We have a little saying:

What we don’t complete, we must repeat.

It’s like in Super Mario Bros. When you die, you get sent back to the beginning of the level and get to try again. Trying to go back with your ex is like being stuck on the same level of Mario. Instead, you can continue on to the next level by going out to meet more women, using all of the experience you gained last time around (or making up for lost time). Unlike Mario, we only get 1 life. There’s no need to waste it by repeating the same mistake again and again.

Guys who choose to go back to her (if she lets him) usually remember why they broke up with her in the first place VERY QUICKLY. All the same problems pop their heads up. If she was dishonest, she’ll still be dishonest. If she was bossy, she’ll still be bossy. If she wasn’t physically attractive to the guy, she still won’t be his cup of tea. We can never assume anyone will change… That’s not to say people can’t change, but most don’t and won’t. If she was going to change, she would have done it before she met you.

Fact of the matter is, we’ve never seen any guy who got back together with his ex-girlfriend and had it work out well for him. He would have fared better if he just made a clean cut instead. Unfortunately, some guys insist on staying stuck in the same part of their lives over and over – the whole “what we don’t complete, we must repeat” phenomenon.

It’s like when a mild-mannered middle-management guy suddenly hits 40 and blows his load on a sports car with vanity plates that read “STUDMFN,” goes on a drunken bender with series of college party girls, then ends up having to give half his money plus alimony to his newly divorced wife and never gets to see his kids again. All because he never got the ‘party days’ out of his system… He didn’t complete that stage of life, and then got stuck there, at the wrong time in his life.

Mistakes are chances for us to grow and learn. If we refuse to learn from the mistake and insist on repeating the same situation (trying to ‘beat the game’) then we’re holding ourselves back. Stop making the mistake of trying to go back to your ex. Ignore all of the clever marketers trying to take advantage of fresh wounds, selling dating advice products about “getting your ex back.” The fact of the matter is, you’ll make your life a whole lot better and easier by moving on and going out to find new women who make you happy. That might not be what you want to hear, but it’s what you need to hear. If you decide to use other people’s advice and try to go back to her, remember: We’ll be here waiting for you, ready to help you move forward with your dating life when you’re ready. We’ve got your back.