Who Should Pay For The First Date?

июля 17, 2020

The timeless battle wages on - Who should pay for the first date? This article gives you some advice that guys never talk about with this issue.

There’s all kinds of random advice out there on who should pay for the first date. It’s a long, convoluted debate with all sides weighing in. Our take on this issue will address the following concerns:

· “I’ve gotten girls to pay / heard of guys getting girls to pay for their first dates.”

· “Doesn’t paying for her on the first date set a bad precedent?”

· “What if you never see her again after the first date? Isn’t that a bad investment?”

Likewise, any arguments about gender roles and paying for dates, or how society SHOULD be we consider tangential to the issue at hand: what actions do we need to take in order to have the best chances of personal success and happiness when it comes to dating and keeping a high value woman of exception beauty and accomplishment?

And Now The Answer To Who
Should Pay For The First Date…

And here’s our take: Guys are the ones who should pay for the first date.

Not out of some sense of chivalry, nor to ‘impress the girl,’ nor out of any gender role based reasoning.

We recommend you pay for the first date purely out of your own sense of self-interest.

Why?

First of all, we always run a short, inexpensive sit-down-over-coffee first date… (Also known as the “time limited coffee date,” or TLCD, arguably the best first date EVER). Since we’re keeping it inexpensive, paying for two coffees isn’t any skin off our backs (and for guys who it is, well, they have more to worry about than their dating lives).

The biggest reason we pay is so we can gather valuable data about her by observing her actions. Consider the following questions next time you pay for her coffee:

· Does she have her purse out when you pay?

· Does she make a genuine effort to pay?

· Does she thank you for paying?

· Does she go into a “I’m insulted, you can’t buy me!” diatribe?

· Does she offer to pay you back?

· Does she offer to pick up the next bill?

· Is she grateful?

· Is she indignant that it’s “just” a trip to the local coffee shop and not a fancy stuffed goose 8-dish course?

· Is she smiling when you pay?

· Is she fretting when you pay?

· Is she silent when you pay?

· What’s she doing?

· What’s she saying?

· Where’s she looking?

What To Do With The Information You Get By Paying For The First Date?

Open up your senses, perceive her actions. After seeing and hearing what she does, then you can sit down, process the information you gathered at that critical juncture and make conclusions about the woman (and whether she is worth spending more dates with).

A pretty good situation for her is 1) if she has her money out and offers to pay, 2) thanks you for paying and, 3) offers to pick up the tab next time. On the other hand, if she doesn’t have her money out, or doesn’t have the common courtesy to thank you, she may high maintenance and simply not be worth your time and effort – we’ve dated and know plenty of hot, high value women women who are more than happy for the first date to be over coffee. Likewise, if she throws any kind of negative emotions your way when you pay for her coffee… Let’s just say that unless you’re willing to spend the next 50 years of life with the behavior she’s showing you on the first date, it’s probably best to smile, wish her a nice day and disappear ASAP.

Women all respond differently when you pay. That’s why we keep our eyes to peeled for shady agendas as well as unacceptable, disrespectful or rude behavior right from the get-go – it’s a sure sign that our time would better be invested in a higher quality woman with a better attitude.

Paying for the coffee on all the coffee dates you go on serves as a long term investment that will more than make up for itself when you have the knowledge, perception, persistence and a bit of good luck to find that Amazing Woman who buys you copious gifts, pays for vacations for two and and perhaps even works with you as a wickedly skilled partner who brings tons of cash into your shared life through her business skills.