Last Minute Resistance

 

I  couldn’t write a Dating without talking about LMR.  Notice that NO means no and when in doubt stop.  But I also want to say that sometimes No means not yet.   In person there is a huge difference and it’s really easy to tell.  If she is moaning and saying I barely know you or it’s too soon and she is stopping you but saying it passively.  Then that means not yet.   But if she is serious and says no that means no.

How to avoid LMR

Over my years of getting better and better with the opposite sex I find that I don’t really like dealing with LMR and instead I want to completely avoid it by doing two things.  Sure with the right attitude you can plow through it and sometimes you need too but I think it’s much better to avoid last minute resistance.  I avoid it by doing two things.

1.  Comfort. The longer you spend with a girl the more comfortable she is with you.  The more places and situations you are in with her the more comfortable she will be with you.  Despite what the community says I believe you can be friends with a girl for a long time and still escalate it to sex provided you are an attractive male to begin with.  Sure it’s nice to get there quickly but in my experience if you consistently maintain attraction either automatically or consciously then you can escalate it to sex after months of hanging out with her.  Don’t get me wrong I am not saying wait when you can have sex but I am saying it’s not necessarily a race to get there.

2. Not letting LMR exist. You can allow last minute resistance to not even exist if you take it and instead of just escalating you can escalate while telling the girl that you are not going to have sex with her.   If you are constantly telling a girl you never sleep with girls so soon in a relationship but at the same time escalating hard core while maintaining the fact that you will not sleep with her so soon you can get all the way to having sex.

Basically you escalate all the way to almost sex and keep turning her on while telling her that you will not sleep with her yet.  You get her so turned on that she will initiate the final push to sex.

Girls do this to guys all the time. Escalating and getting us turned on just to say not yet.  We go crazy… Just flip the script!

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Opening Other People – Introvert Mode You should be aware of which mode the person is in because it helps you gauge the potential difficulty of opening the set. For instance, if you want to open a girl walking down the street but she’s in Introvert Mode, your opening line or immediate follow up statement (your transition) has to be powerful enough to hook her into conversation with you. If it isn’t, she’ll stay in Introvert Mode. Do take into account the fact that there will always be other things that factor into whether you’ll be able to hook her or not, such as; is she on the phone, is she late; those kind of things. If you succeed you bring her into Extrovert Mode and you’ll be able to communicate with her easily.

Opening Other People – Extrovert Mode When people are out being social, they are in extrovert mode. They are generally easier to open for the simple fact that they are already out of Introvert Mode. You still have to hook the set with interesting discussion though, or you are perceived as not being high value.

Opening Other People – Group Introvert Mode If people are talking to each toher, pretty much the same rules apply, except the difficulty of opening and hooking is a little less. Why only a little? Because a group as a whole can be in Group Introvert Mode, where the only thing they are aware of are their own thoughts and the thoughts being communicated to the rest of the group. There may be one person in the group who has either assumed the duty of monitoring the outside goings on by their disinterest in the conversation or has been assigned the duty due to their low status among the group. These are the people no one listens to. But the group is still partially in Extrovert Mode so they are a little easier to open overall. You won’t be successful if you are closer to the Introvert end of the spectrum because people will equate that with you being a low value person. The closer you are to the Extrovert end of the spectrum the more successful you will open.

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