Relationship Advice: Sincerity to buy love? I don’t think so…

I always come across people that want to use sincerity to buy love, and some how many of them fail and it doesn’t work.

That’s just because after thinking about it for 3 straight days, I kind of burnt out on what I wanted to say, even though I had more.

So I will be updating that list as I go on sharing relationship advices.

Relationship Advice: Sincerity to buy love? I don’t think so…

I always felt that using sincerity to buy love isn’t sincerity.

I came across incidents where people demanded, saying, “I have done this and that for you, yet you have the cheek to treat me otherwise!”

They use what they have given freely out of love to demand similar treatments of love.

Many people use sincerity in many ways. People who are after their crush’s heart often use their sincerity as a selling price, in order for the other party to treat them similarly.

Boyfriends or girlfriends would demand attention if they themselves have given much attention to their partners.

And this ‘sincerity’ causes many arguments, especially when the person offering that ‘sincerity’ feels victimized by the other party for not reciprocating.

Really, that kind of sincerity isn’t love; that’s a loan in order to get something back in future.

If you want to give something or a gift out of true sincerity, there should never be an expectancy to receive anything back, in any shape, form or fashion.

And it should not be time-bound; there should never be an expectancy to receive anything in the future and in the present.

That is true sincerity, and that is love.

And why am I sharing this?

If ‘false sincerity’ is a source of conflict in your relationship, whether is it with your friends, boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, knowing this will help you to avoid this path of endless arguments and ridiculous demands.

You will be more careful not to use what you have freely given before out of love, as a bargaining chip to get something out of your loved ones.

How you will you benefit if you are practising true sincerity?

If you practise true sincerity by giving yourself and your resources to your partner freely without expecting anything back, your partner will notice your sincerity within themselves quietly.

It will influence and encourage them in their hearts to do the same without your constant bragging and nagging about your efforts. Pure love is far more effective than any nagging and arguing.

If your partner have no eyes and the heart to see what you have been doing for them when you give sincerely, seriously it just tells you that his or her heart is not with you in the first place but for themselves only. People who can appreciate sincerity will respond with their love and actions.

When you are giving sincerely, I am not saying that you should be a pushover or a doormat. If you have been giving up alot of your resources and time to your beloved and partner and he or she is just expecting more as though it is their God-given right to have your resources and time, you should dump the joker.

However, if you did give yourself to your partner, you should never regret giving your resources and time in the first place and never expect anything back. It is just as how you buy an expensive gift to your best friend, and should you demand him or her to give you something just as expensive?

So if you have to dump your partner in your love relationship, do it because he or her is not fitting for you in a love relationship, or that you cannot see a future with their personality and character. I do strongly advise you to dump your partner if he or she has been consistently draining you out and has no heart for you at the end.

Going after a person’s heart with sincerity

There is another aspect of sincerity that we should know.

Many people think that if they are sincere, the person whom they like will be ‘touched’ by their sincerity and that they will reciprocate these feelings back in response.

Though this is true in some cases, I have come across more people who are disappointed than those who truly got what their heart’s desire.

That’s because those who are disappointed think that getting loved is all about sincerity.

However, these people forget the fact that if someone that they don’t truly like, offers the same amount of sincerity to them, more often or not they will reject that person irregardless of the amount of sincerity.

The fact is, we are truly impressed with sincerity only if the person offering that sincerity is already someone whom we value and has a weighty presence.

So if you are always suffering from heartaches, always feeling victimized because all your efforts of sincerity doesn’t seem to count, you need to focus on becoming a person of value to that special someone, instead of trying to ‘sell’ your sincerity in order to get what your heart’s desire.

This will work much better than trying to sell your sincerity.

Final words for this post

I really hope to cater to your heart’s cries in regards to love and relationships.

So if you have anything you want to ask, feel free to drop by at “Gift and Relationship Advice – Question and Answer“, post a question in the comments page and I will try to help you as much as I can.

I have a question for you today: is a love relationship a selfish affair?

Truly, many people are after their crush’s hearts are not for their crush’s sake; it is for themselves.

And so people will claim that they love their crush with all of their heart, and it is for their sake, but I always have a tendency to smell a rat out of these statements.

Is that love? So, is a love relationship a selfish affair to you?

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