Who said staying in a broken marriage is better
So sorry to hear of your struggles mandy. While i do not have personal experience, i have witnessed a similar situation with a family friend and her family. i don't suppose counseling (either solo or couple) has/would help? of course i don't know how open/cool headed such a conversation is with your husband. If he is unwilling to recognize your pain (and express his own issues and agree to work together for the marriage and kid), i don't know how much better things will be in the future... toysweetness: while i understand your observation--the out of control divorce rate, shattered families, marriage oaths, contradictory statements of love/leave etc--i simply cannot swallow sticking it out with an obviously threatening, abusive husband (especially if he turns out to be unresponsive to counseling).
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You quote the bible to affirm your opinion, yet it also states (with regards to marriage) that husbands should esteem their women as christ did the church. ie, don't treat them like crap, they are to be respected, cherished and loved! does god brush aside this minor detail for the sake of saving the kids from heartache and maintaining a 'godly oath' (which i might add, gets broken by those of faith just as often)? either way, the family will have to struggle with pain. one will be a prisoner in her own home, and the other free physically, emotionally, spiritually, whatever. kids make everything harder, but if divorce is the most healthy option, then i'd prefer a caretaker who took care of herself first, then by extension, my well being and path to peace and wholeness again.
Who said staying in a broken marriage is better for the kids than a broken family? maybe it looks better from the outside looking in? from my observations of happy non-faith couples and miserable faith ones, marriage is more than a 'god' thing (whatever that means): it is work, conflict management, personality compatibility, listening to each other...please, please, PLEASE do not judge mandy's feelings with this god-related spin. i think practical problem-solving is more effective than all-emcompassing ideology. i've grown up in the church, and really get irritated when people project ideology upon others, especially upon sensitive, complex personal issues. it just feels judgmental and not result-driven to me, no matter how you slice it. sorry for the rant, i just felt compelled to voice my view *sigh*
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