How to Move Past Booty, But Not Lose the Booty
Here’s one of the truly evergreen topics — how to magically turn a booty call into a more-than-booty-call. And almost exclusively, the answer is that you’re more likely to pull off the whole water-into-wine thing, which from what I’ve read (i.e. zero) was kind of a special situation you’re unlikely to be in.
And it’s still that unlikely in the situation we’re going to see here, in that you can never MAKE this change happen — it either happens or it doesn’t.
But these things do change on their own sometimes. And a reader ingeniously named PornQueen thinks she might be in one of those. She wants to see if there’s more…but doesn’t want to lose the booty. Can she do it? Could be. Let’s get the deets.
Is it possible to go from Booty Call status to more? I’ve never been the type to not speak my mind. Most of the time, I blurt it out and go on with my life (notice how I just ask the question above without any preamble…).
Yeah, I haven’t really enjoyed many preambles. The Constitution has a decent one, I guess. After that, the list gets pretty thin. Unlike myself, given all the stress eating, and the general deliciousness of sweets and all.
This time though, my mind is playing some tricks on me (I don’t like it) Here’s the story in a nutshell… guy meets girl, some flirting, exchange numbers, guys calls, they get together for some yummy sex frequently. He’s wanted to go out “in public” @ the beginning of the “relationship”. She’s turned him down everytime. SEX was all she was looking for at that point. They had this “thing” for about a year now. Now(arrgghhh), she seems to want more & he seems to want it too. What to say to see if this could be more? She DOES NOT want to lose the SEX part. He’s really good!(I’ll stop writing in the 3rd person now).
I was gonna ask when that 3rd person thing was gonna stop. I mean…er…he was gonna ask. I mean, HE means “he was gonna ask.” Eh, forget it.
This is where my mind is playing tricks… I wanna say it but I don’t want to risk losing, you know, umm…, the yummy stuff. I think if I had to choose, I would choose the SEX, hands down…but if it becomes more, then I would not mind either. So, what do you reccomend? How should I approach this? or just leave it alone and time will tell?
Thanks,
PQ
BTW you are the best!
Dear PornQueen,
I had to laugh at your very last — “time will tell.” My favorite womanizer pal once was asked by a booty call of his whether it might be able to turn into more. He responded with a whispered, “Only time will tell.” This was, er, hilarious to me, because it was, of course, a complete dodge. It was a lie.
Well, then again, no it wasn’t a lie. Time did tell. It told “no.” But it sure told. And it’ll tell you, too, one way or the other.
ANYTHING ELSE TO TRY BESIDES WAITING?
Honestly, if you want to keep the booty, I’d let it be. If he ONLY wants to bone, and you start sniffing around for more, well, that’s the kind of thing that bootymen are trained to detect. He’ll fade out so fast it’ll make your booty spin. And not in a fun way, either.
If, however, what you say is true — that he wants more as well, don’t worry about it. Just don’t OPPOSE it. What’s your watchword in that? Here you go:
YIELD
That’s the deal. That’s what you do. You don’t push or pull him. You sense where he’s going…and you go there with him. That way, if he’s only in it for the booty, you get your booty. Er…he gets your booty. Somebody’s getting somebody’s booty, is the thing.
And if he’s shooting for MORE than the booty, then that’s where you’ll both end up.
The funny thing is, in most good relationships, this is just how it works. Nobody leads, both people follow, and it’s like doing a Ouija board, where you somehow end up someplace, and nobody really “did” it. Except for that ghost of the little boy who died in a mineshaft collapse, and needed to come to your attic to freak you out. He did some of the Ouija board stuff, of course, sure. But mostly it was some weird pushme-pullyou thing that just somehow found its way.
Be like that, PQ. Let it happen. If it doesn’t happen, it means it wasn’t gonna happen. And if it does, it won’t be because anybody MADE it happen.
What do you think, ladies? Is there anything PornQueen should do? Or is NO-thing the better way?
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