How to Pick Up Girls

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Sometimes guys ask us how they can get back out there and start meeting women again after a long hiatus away from the dating game.

Usually, this has them revisiting old fears…

Maybe they lived in the middle of nowhere. Maybe they just had a break up. Maybe they got busy with work. Maybe they got a handle on their self-esteem and are ready to give this woman thing another shot.

Whatever it is, these guys want to know how to overcome fear of approaching women and they want to know they fastest way to fix their problems.

“Hey , I want to start approaching 1 girl a day. What do you think?”

Here’s the rub: approaching at least 1 girl a day is not nearly enough. 

However, depending on your living situations 30 a day may be impossible (ie, Bahrain / the Gobi Desert / deep in the Brazilian rainforest / Podunk, USA).

The main point is that…

… The more women you meet, the more chances to you have at finding a good one, and the more chances you have to learn.

Regardless of your current living situation, more is better when it comes to building (or rebuilding) skills, confidence and experience as fast as possible.

And who knows, maybe you’ll end up meeting the girl of your dreams on number 2 out of 30 and you can simply quit while you’re ahead (although we would still advise you to keep getting experience and keep meeting women until you’ve committed yourself to an exclusive relationship with her).

If you can do 30 a day, do it.

It’s gonna be a lot faster than one.

Imagine jumping into a cold pool.

Some guys, out of fear of feeling the cold water, will spend almost an hour dipping their toe in, slowly and gradually getting more of their foot wet, trying too acclimate themselves to the coldness of the pool (which still never helps them avoid the cold shock when they first fully jump in).

And each time they touch the water it reminds them of how cold it will be when they fully jump in. They end up staying cold, fearing the cold, and wasting their otherwise fun pool-time.

And then there are the guys who jump in, full force, and start swimming and moving from the very beginning.

Do they avoid the cold shock?

No. They have to go through it, same as anyone else.

But they know that dipping their toes in isn’t going to warm them up, it’s just going to guarantee that they feel the cold for longer while wasting their own time.

Everyone has to go through the cold – the learning curve (or re-learning curve) – regardless of how much the try to get warmed up dipping their toes in or approaching 1 girl a day.

Instead of wasting all their time puttering around the pool trying to avoid the inevitable coldness, smart guys know that the quickest route to fun times is to dive in, head-on.

The best way to get warmed up is to dive in and Meet More Women, not less.