Dating Coach For Lovers

  We’ve all been there – wondering if a date is going well or not, wishing we could read someone’s mind. Well, today I will change all that for you! Nope, you still won’t be able to read mind (i’m working on that) BUT i can help you on reading body languages on whether your date finds your interesting and is attracted to you, or they’re secretly calling their friends to bail them out with one of those moves they rehearsed for emergency bad dates. -winks. Mirror Mirror On The Wall See if she / he has the mirroring effect on you when having a meal with you. This involves them subconsciously mirroring your moves, like simultaneously raising a glass of water to your lips, or simultaneously playing with your cutlery. It could be a whole range of things, but one thing for sure is that if they mirror your moves, they definitely are attracted to you (although there’s an outside chance they’re just attracted to your lovely marinated chicken..)   Are You Crossed Out? (Legs) ...

  So you're in a bar, having a quiet drink with your friends when a guy approaches you, he's your perfect type, tall, blond and a jawline that would make male models weep with jealousy. You're already imagining him in his underwear... and then he goes and opens his mouth,  "Can i take a photo of you so i can show Santa what i want for Christmas?" The cheesy chat up line strikes again! It's bad enough to use a chat up line at all, but to mention the Christmas legend that is Santa?! That's just creepy. Sorry hunk, but the only thing you'll be unwrapping is a Turkey dinner for one. Why do guys do this? They rarely work, and hearing some man cheapen your worth with some smutty, and mildly insulting one liner, doesn't exactly make you want to "Get your coat, because you've pulled." I say stop with the old cliched chat up lines and lets start being original. How about you just be honest?  "I think your pretty so i came over to s...

Last month we brought up the idea in AlphaCandy, or question, rather:  “Why don’t more black women use matchmaking agencies?”  Most are free to women.  Seems like a no-brainer!  And we are not talking about online dating sites.  That is so 2020. We got several answers and most of it had to do with insecurity and lack of information.  As you can see from certain matchmaking shows on TV, you and the next woman are in the same boat.  They are not your competitor.  They are your peer.  Your competitor is actually the other women in that man’s life! You also don’t need a head to toe makeover to get with a matchmaker.  A simple wash and set (if it’s your own hair), a nice bath, and cute little number should give you the confidence to knock on the door.  It doesn’t mean you are exactly “in” as many have screening processes, but you are one step closer to your goal. Which is? Well, my dearies.  The men with this agencies have to p...

  As previously discussed, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about signature looks and how to define them. With that said, I thought it might be a good idea to talk about the questions I’ve been asking and how these questions have been helping me to define a signature look of my own. Question #1: Whose style do I admire? Why? Think about 3 or so celebrities whose style you admire most. Or maybe there are women in your daily life (family members, co-workers, friends, etc.) whose look, style, and image you admire. Think about what it is that draws you to them- this is your why. Question #2: From the list you made in question 1, ask yourself who can you take style inspiration from? I don’t necessarily like the idea of trying to look like or imitate someone else I prefer to think about how you can use someone else’s style inspiration to craft your own look and image. Question #3: What is your archetype? There’s been a lot of talk about archetypes in certain Facebook circles. If you’...

  One can never achieve  Man-eater  status without a healthy dose of self-confidence- my mantra, words to live by. I ooze confidence when it comes to dating and other areas of my life, but it wasn’t always this way. Transitions in life can jolt our confidence in certain areas, leaving us unsure, and in what seems like unfamiliar territory. We may have gone through a bad break up or divorce, had a child as a single woman, and then find ourselves in a place where we are unsure, or vulnerable. We all have to get our footing back sometimes and that is okay. But how can we do that? I’ve come up with 5 practical, tangible strategies for building confidence. 1. Practice Practice makes perfect. The more you practice the other four strategies, the more confidence you will build. Make confidence-building a habit. Think about it when you are in social settings where you lack confidence and even when you are feeling the most confident, become conscience of it at all times, and no...

  Dear Dr. V, I've been in a long-distance relationship with a married man for five years. Lately, I’ve been doubting his love for me. His wife has known about us since the beginning. He says his marriage is over, but why then is he still living with her? He says his wife is going to file for divorce, but I don't believe him. I want to give up on the relationship, but it is too heartbreaking. What should I do?   – Genie T. Dear Genie, Pure common sense says you should break this relationship off. He lives far away, he’s married and he is willing to cheat on his wife. What’s to say if you married him, he wouldn’t do the same to you? Honestly, I wouldn’t trust this man. Cheating men often lie about their situations to get what they want. If he told you his wife knows about the affair, he was probably lying. Even though you can’t trust this man, you  can  trust yourself. If there is even a little voice inside your head telling you to end this relationship,...