Dating Coach For Lovers

It’s Friday, ladies. And this week, that means it’s time for a quickie. What does a man mean when he says that you deserve “better than” him? Oh, this one always cracks me up, folks. It really does. Let’s manslate it: 2nd time asker here…different problem same guy! What does it mean when a guy tells you “You deserve better than me and it took me the time we spent together to realize that.” Ohh and we are finally broken up for good this time…no going back but that line is driving me crazy!!! Thanks Dear Beth, The manslation for, “You deserve better than me,” is always one of two things: I intend to treat you badly, and want to give myself some cover so I can say, “Hey, I told you months ago that you deserve better than me!” I want to break up with you with as little fuss as possible. It’s usually #2. The first manslation is more commonly attached to the phrase, “I’m not a good boyfriend.” But this one can occasionally be used in that sense. But no, mostly i...

We talk a lot about what men want here at Successful Online Dating . I know as a woman, that’s something I spend a fair amount of time thinking about personally, as well as for this site. We question, we research, and we read articles and books. Sometimes I think we overlook the other side of the coin. If you are scaring a guy off in the first few dates, you will never get to know each other on a deeper level. Do You Make Men Turn and Run? There are a few generalized types of women that will make a man turn and run. 1.     The “Biological Clock Ticking” Woman  – When men think of ticking, they think of time bombs, about to explode. I understand the whole biological clock thing; I hear mine tick, sometimes louder than others. What I don’t want is for the first words out of my mouth to be “So, do you want to impregnate me now, or after dinner?” Ok, that might be a bit extreme. However, for daters who are in the later years of fertility, some men will assu...

A reader named “Shy Girl”… or at least that’s what she SAYS her name is, but I have my doubts. Can’t fool THIS little black duck, people. ( Special award for the first person to name that reference, thereby making me feel less ancient. ) Anyhu, Shy Girl is wondering about my whole idea that a guy who really likes you isn’t going to wait more than two days to contact you after a date. She wants to know if this is true in ALL situations, or just in the new relationships? Well, Shy Girl, if that  is  your real name, let’s manslate you on that one, shall we? Hi Jeff! Just want to say i love your website, and i’ve written for help a couple times before, this time i just want clarification on a point that i’ve seen you make a couple times. Specifically this one: “if a guy doesn’t call you within 2 days after a first date, he’s not interested.” My question is, does this  hold true throughout all stages of dating?  As in, if you’ve been talking to him for a coupl...

She’s moved to a new town, but right before she left she kinda-sorta  fell for a guy back home. Aw, crap. Hate it when that happens. And now, she’s trying to figure out if there’s something there, or are they just lonely? Let’s manslate this bad mammajamma, shall we? Can I still say “bad mammajamma” or is there a 3 decade statute of limitations on that one? Well I will try to make it short.  Hooked up and hung out with this guy I knew. We tried to keep it casual and just a fling becuase I was moving very far in a few months, but we ended up developing feelings for each other. We both agreed that we didnt want to get serious, but also had a really great time with each other so there was no point in ending something so fun just because I was moving. All sounds hunky dory to me, right? Well…I really really miss him now. Ah, crap. I wish more then  anything that I just stayed away from him, focused on my move and my friends, and not let myself get too  inv...

Got a question from Amber about…well, it’s about how to get dumped a little better. She’s tired of these guys — guys with whom she’s spent some significant amount of time — pulling the ol’ Fade on her.  Otherwise known as “The ol’ Jeff Mac.”  Yes, yes, I used to be a Fader. Or “coward” if you’re into the whole accuracy thing. Amber knows these relationships are over, but she wants…well, what DOES she want, exactly? Let’s find out… I was just talking to my BFF Jaime about some dating stuff I can’t figure out and we’re hoping you can help. Here’s the deal: Lately- well, since I moved to LA- I’ve noticed that I go on 4 or 5 dates with a guy and then he goes AWOL.  Or fades on me with an “I’ve been sooo busy” brush-off text or something to that effect. OK, fine, whatever, clearly he’s not into me, that already sucks. Is my only option to sit back and let him totally blow me off? Because that sucks even more. Is there a dignified way to  reach out if he’s ign...

Ladies, today I’ve got a special treat for you to start the week. My blogging compatriot, the Dating Goddess over at “ Adventures in Delicious Dating after 40 ” is releasing a series of e-books, and I got a sneak peek at the first one, pre-release. Yeah, I’m cool like that. Jealous? You know you are. We traded books ( you can read her review of my new book, Manslations: Decoding the Secret Language of Men, right  here ) so that we could each do a review of each other’s book. And I have to tell you, I really, really enjoyed hers quite a bit. It’s called “ Date or Wait: Are You Ready for Mr. Great? ,” and she’s putting it out as an e-book OR as a soft-cover, whichever works better for you. It’s a series of short, easily digestible chapters, not unlike blog posts ( they were great for subway reading, or for anyone who has frequent short periods of reading time. ) Each has a very specific angle of attack, but the main thrust of this book seems to be about redefining what ...

Here’s a new one. Lynne is wondering what’s going on when a guy asks if you want to get married…in the future? Like… ever ? I guess that’s the question. And TWO younger guys have asked virtually the same thing recently. What gives? Oh, I’ll TELL you what gives, people. But first, Lynne’s question: What does it mean/how to respond when a man asks you if you want to get married in the future (quite early on in dating)? I have had two, admittedly younger, men ask me this recently and I didn’t quite know how to handle it. I would like to, in the future, with the right person… but. I am in my early 30s. Thanks! https://www.longisland.com/profile/loveawake http://vtp2.talentovani.cz/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/rady-pro-lasku-pro-surfer-girl http://vtp2.talentovani.cz/web/okcupid/home/-/blogs/romanticky-napad-pro-dalkove-vztahy http://www.365kindle.ren/google.php?action=url&q2=https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/08/affection-is-to-women-what-sex-is-to-men/ http://snnptnt.dana...

Lucy’s live-in boyfriend seems to be dragging his feet a little bit. It seems that every step of the way is HER idea. And now that the next step in her mind is marriage, he’s digging his heels in, just a leeettle beet. Is she wasting her time, or what? Details, you say? Why, here they are: I’ve been with my boyfriend (who is 28yrs old) for three years and he’s always been hard to commit, it took a while for him to date me exclusively and we dated for two years before we moved in together. I’m ok with how slow our relationship is going, even though it can get frustrating sometimes, it’s just that I’m feeling like we’re in a bit of a holding pattern and I’m wondering when the next step is coming ie. When will he ask me to marry him!? Heh. Yes, I can see how “ok” you are with  how slow it’s going, ha ha. And oh boy, I’m sure HE can see it as well. When I make hints, he changes the subject or ignores me, once he snapped at me and said that maybe he’ll never get married and th...